Sitting alone worrying
My mind a mess of jumbled thoughts
Not knowing what my future holds
Everything overwhelming me
Something in nothing
In a never-ending cycle I’m caught
Terrified of what my future holds
Anxiously sitting silently
Head spinning whilst sitting quietly
The weight of anxiety crushing me
Feeling my life is all for nought
Crying at what my future holds
Cannot concentrate on things
Heart beating faster now
The hardest battle I’ve ever fought
Scared of what my future holds
A poem by Ricky
When depression strikes it often feels as if the demons in the darkest reaches of your mind have surfaced simply to torture you. Self doubt creeps in and then the whole world feels bleak and that you have nowhere to turn. I’ll often find that even as a middle aged man the thoughts from this poem enter my thoughts at an all too alarming rate.
Although humans as a species like to be prepared and have a plan in place, some of the most interesting people I know still don’t have life’s journey planned out.
Worrying about the future, does it actually achieve anything?
Life is a journey and as with any journey there will be obstacles. There will be parts of the journey that you enjoy and parts that you don’t. The trick is to not worry about what is ahead of you, live life in the moment and take each day as it comes. Try not to fixate on something that is happening in the future as generally the thing that you are worrying about is never as bad as the worry makes you feel. Oh, and always be nice to people as you never know where they are in their journey.
“The main thing that you have to remember on this journey is, just be nice to everyone and always smile.”
It’s how you respond to getting knocked down that will ultimately shape you as a person. If you take the punches without putting up a fight then inevitably things will get you down. If however you keep on pushing forward, no matter the weight of the punch then this will help to define you as a person. Once people realise that you aren’t their punch bag, simply there to be abused, and you will feel much better about yourself. Push yourself, it doesn’t matter if it only seems like the smallest of steps, to achieve your goals. A small step forward is progress, standing still is not.
Our biggest critic, our own worst enemy is often our-self, overcome that hurdle and anything is possible. Don’t underestimate the power of positive thought. Sometimes it’s the only tool we have to help us through the day. If we don’t see ourselves in a positive light then why would anyone else?
Always try to push forward and fight back no matter how hard life is eating into you. The moment you stop TRYING to fight is the moment you lose.
I’ll leave you with a quote…
Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It is a very mean and nasty place and it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t how hard you hit; it’s about how hard you can get hit, and keep moving forward. How much you can take, and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done. Now, if you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hit, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you are because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain’t you. You’re better than that. – Rocky Balboa
Procrastinate: to keep delaying something that must be done, often because it is unpleasant or boring:
“I know I’ve got to deal with the problem at some point – I’m just procrastinating.”
Above is the definition of something that I have long been guilty of, procrastination, I’d always find an excuse to procrastinate and generally it wouldn’t matter what I was trying to put off until later, be it chores, shopping, gardening or even writing (which I greatly enjoy). All have been on my “I’ll do it later” list.
Creating my own Blog has been on my list. Up until now.
So what’s changed?
Simple…my mindset. Life waits for no-one.
I have long dreamed of having a blog, somewhere to write down the things on my mind, a place to let others read (and hopefully enjoy) my thoughts and poetry. But mostly a place where I can give out advice on overcoming the issues surrounding mental health and the steps that people can take to help motivate and push themselves to achieve anything they set their minds to. I could leave it no longer, I am determined to turn this dream into a reality.
Each and every new follower of my blog is helping me to achieve this dream and to every one of you fantastic people I would just like to extend a truly heartfelt thank you. Please do feel free to also leave comments.
So my message is don’t delay. Live your life for the moment, live for the day.
Some days it would be far easier to just stay in bed, pull up the covers and just hide away. I’ve quite often felt this way. The pressures of everyday life pile up insurmountably and will weigh you down. But only if you let them. I know it isn’t easy to pick yourself up, brush yourself down and keep pushing forward in the face of pressure and adversity. If life was easy then surely everybody would be a success? (I’ll come to defining success in a future post). The trick is to try not to let these issues overtake your daily life. If you can accomplish this then your are on your way to beating worry.
Everybody has their own problems to deal with, some unique to that person, however the majority of worries boil down to a similar theme
What other people have/think/are doing
Each is a valid issue, however if there is one thing I have learned in my time on planet Earth it is this…
Worrying doesn’t solve a thing!
This is true, all worry does is causes stress and uses up excess energy. This is energy that would be better placed elsewhere, doing something proactive. Now of course it’s easy to say to someone “Stop worrying.” But if it is in a person’s nature to worry then inevitably they will. Trust me I know, I’ve been there. It’s just I have learned to focus that worry into positive energy. Instead of sitting around letting the thought consume me I now know to concentrate on something else. Whether that be spending time with my kids, reading a book or going metal detecting (my new passion) doesn’t matter. Just doing something to alleviate the worry is the important thing. That’s what I am trying to press home, not letting the worry consume you, as once it’s done that then it has won.
So my advice today regarding worry is simple…
When you feel worry starting to take hold try and do something else as soon as you are able, don’t allow it to consume you. Turn the negativity around, get creative, get outside or get involved in something. Just doing something away from the worry should help.
Every moment spent worrying is a moment spent not enjoying the pleasures that life can bring. Now as far as anyone knows we only have one life, it is up to us to choose whether we are going to waste this chance or give our all and embrace it.
“Whatever is going to happen will happen, whether we worry or not.”
― Ana Monnar